Apologize to Your Wife

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While we were dating, my wife once told me "You are really good at apologizing" and she couldn't stay mad at me long.  Of course, now that we have been  married for 4+ years, and after apologizing hundreds thousands of times, it's not quite as impressive.  Because I have used it so frequently, I have learned a thing or two about apologizing in marriage...

• Stop doing things that you need to apologize for!  This one is pretty obvious the best apology is one that never has to be said!

• Sincerity is the key.  You have to mean it, if you don't mean it, why apologize.  Also, they usually know when you aren't sincere.

• Apologizing means that you will try to stop what you are apologizing for.  For example, don't apologize for not helping out more around the house, if you don't intend on putting in a little effort.

• Apologize even if its not your fault. This is hard.  This level of humility is very important in a marriage (expect a post dedicated to humility soon)

• Be the first to apologize.  After an argument, always try to be the first to apologize! Apologizing second is the easy way out... give it to your wife.

So go apologize to your wife! ...I'm sure there's something you did wrong, or could be doing better.

Update: After writing this post I found a great, more in depth, post on apologizing in marriage from Happily Married After - check it out.