The Date: It is a 3-day weekend, which may expand your dating possibilities. Unfortunately, we're going to have to wait until Monday to enjoy our date, because like many of you, we've got a busy weekend ahead of us. We have decided to go rent kayaks! We are lucky enough to have many places who offer this service near us (Seattle area). We did this same date while we were dating, and it is so much fun to goof around in the water and get a little exercise in the process. The weather should be warm and sunny, although the lake water will still be too cold for a swim. Also, maybe we will also get lunch afterward.
The Challenge: Now that we are into July, the weather should cooperate for an outdoor date for most of the country. Go outside and do something fun that you don't normally do together. Go hiking, kayaking, to the beach, or even just have a picnic! Whatever you decide, just make sure you date your wife this weekend!... Let me know your date plans for this weekend in the comments!
The Cost: I'm not sure how much it will cost, but I am hoping that it won't be more than about $10-$20.
Update: First, I must tell you that I planned this date without consulting my wife. I had forgotten about her bad wrist, so kayaking might not be such a good idea right now. Also, she was able to pick up some work for most of the day on Saturday. So what I'm getting at, after all these excuses, is that we did not get to go on a date! One of the reasons I am posting our dates is to be accountable for dating my wife. I didn't do a good job dating my wife this weekend, but it was a crazy weekend (with the holiday and all). Anyway, I just have to make next weekend's date amazing!
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Last Week's Date: Movie Night at Home
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Showing posts with label Dates. Show all posts
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Friday, July 2, 2010
Friday, June 25, 2010
Date Your Wife: Movie Night at Home
The Date: This weekend we are planning on doing a free (or close to free) movie night at home! We will probably rent a movie via Redbox and make our favorite movie snack: popcorn with M&Ms. After our son is in bed we will snuggle up on the couch with our goodies and enjoy the show! This is probably my favorite cheap date. Not sure what movie we will watch, it probably depends on what the Redbox has, but when your trying to impress your wife, you can't go wrong with a chick-flick. Also, since this doesn't allow a lot of conversation, we'll be sure to add pillow talk after the movie.
The Challenge: Why not have a movie night with your wife this weekend? Its easy, inexpensive, doesn't require a babysitter, and a lot of fun! To take it a step further, rent a movie she's been wanting to see and/or surprise her with her favorite movie snack. Let me know your date plans for this weekend in the comments!
The Cost: $0 -$5. This date is very affordable. A dollar for the movie (if you go with Redbox) and a couple dollars for the snack!
Update: I was so excited for this date we ended up doing is last night! We rented Invictus and had some popcorn and Root Beer. It was a really fun time to spend with my wife and relax and unwind together. The best part? it was only $1.50!
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Last Week's Date: Sprint Triathlon
The Challenge: Why not have a movie night with your wife this weekend? Its easy, inexpensive, doesn't require a babysitter, and a lot of fun! To take it a step further, rent a movie she's been wanting to see and/or surprise her with her favorite movie snack. Let me know your date plans for this weekend in the comments!
The Cost: $0 -$5. This date is very affordable. A dollar for the movie (if you go with Redbox) and a couple dollars for the snack!
Update: I was so excited for this date we ended up doing is last night! We rented Invictus and had some popcorn and Root Beer. It was a really fun time to spend with my wife and relax and unwind together. The best part? it was only $1.50!
Click here for more info about the Date Your Wife series
Last Week's Date: Sprint Triathlon
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Date Your Wife: An Introduction
Introducing a new weekly series at Better Husbands and Fathers... Date Your Wife!
The Date Your Wife series will consist of a weekly Friday post with a single date idea for the upcoming weekend. It is my intention that my wife and I will then go on that date over the weekend and I will update the post with how it went.
In addition, you will also be challenged to also take part in the week's specified date (or something similar) with your wife, or make your own plans and share them with everyone in the comments! My goal is to encourage more spousal dating. With enough participation this can be a valuable resource for husbands to be Better Husbands by dating their wives each week.
Stay tuned tomorrow morning for the first installment!
PS - In the future I hope to incorporate giveaways for Date Your Wife participants, but still trying to figure that out and work it into my limited budget.
The Date Your Wife series will consist of a weekly Friday post with a single date idea for the upcoming weekend. It is my intention that my wife and I will then go on that date over the weekend and I will update the post with how it went.
In addition, you will also be challenged to also take part in the week's specified date (or something similar) with your wife, or make your own plans and share them with everyone in the comments! My goal is to encourage more spousal dating. With enough participation this can be a valuable resource for husbands to be Better Husbands by dating their wives each week.
Stay tuned tomorrow morning for the first installment!
PS - In the future I hope to incorporate giveaways for Date Your Wife participants, but still trying to figure that out and work it into my limited budget.
Friday, May 28, 2010
Date your Wife!
Do you date your wife? do you have fun together?
One of the ways, I think, that will make a good husband better is if you actively, and creatively date your wife. We get into routines in life that we need to break out of from time to time. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy dinner and a movie as much as the next guy, but if we step it up, we can really make our wives happy!
Date Thoughts and Ideas:
One of the ways, I think, that will make a good husband better is if you actively, and creatively date your wife. We get into routines in life that we need to break out of from time to time. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy dinner and a movie as much as the next guy, but if we step it up, we can really make our wives happy!
Date Thoughts and Ideas:
- Surprising your wife is a great idea. Schedule a date without her knowing where your going or what your doing. Her excitement will increase with each passing day! (just make sure its not lame, or it will be a big let down!)
- Be Creative! I am bad at this. Do things you haven't done before. This take a bit of planning, but it will be fun and will show your wife she means enough to you come up with a creative idea and do a bit of planning.
- Spontaneity is fun! Although spontaneity is more difficult with children, we should still try to incorporate this into our date-life with our wife. A couple of weeks ago I saw airfare prices to southern California that I almost could not pass up, the only catch? we had to leave the next day! While we didn't end up doing this, how happy would my wife have been if we had? (maybe I should have....)
- Dating with children is more difficult. While, I am lucky enough to be surrounded by free babysitters from both sides of our family, many are not. I recently came across a list of date ideas by The Romantic Vineyard blog called D.R.A.B - Doesn't Require A Babysitter. Take a look at their list here and I think you'll find many great ideas!
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
My top 5 ways to be a better husband
I have been thinking about how I can be a better Husband, so I thought I would try to compile a list of what I see as the top 5 things we, as husbands, can do for our wives. These are things that are above and beyond, things that would impress your wife and make her feel special. (I am assuming you are doing the basics, like being faithful, honest, etc...)
I am sure your list would have differences, so please let me know where I am wrong! It is my goal to start discussions with my posts and get your feedback. Let me know what you think are some things you can do to be a better husband.
#1 - Say "I Love You"
This is one that I, personally have never had a problem with (I think my wife probably thinks I say it too much!). I understand, however, that many men do not verbally express their love to their wife. This is number one on my list, but it is also the easiest one to do! It's three simple words that will mean the world to your wife, make sure she knows you love her, tell her "I love you" everyday.
#2 - Service
One of the biggest culture shocks to me after I got married was that it was no longer about "Me," it was all about "Us." Often, however, it should be all about "Her." I believe that the best kind of service is in the small things we do. For example, I went to Applebees recently to pick up some food to bring home for dinner. As I was waiting for my food to be ready an elderly couple walked into the restaurant--after requesting a booth, they were seated at the booth closest to the front door. As they walked to their seats, the Gentlemen kindly told his wife that he would sit on the side nearest to the the front door so she wouldn't get cold. He was putting his wife comfort above his own.
It is doing the dishes, getting her a glass of water, and overall putting her needs before yours. Unlike #1, this one requires more effort. There have been times in my marriage where this was easy, but also times where I started getting selfish and worrying about my needs ahead of my wife's. When we serve our wives we are better husbands and our wives are happy.
#3 - Holding Hands
Physical contact can say a lot that words cannot. We have all seen the couple who have been married for 40+ years holding each others hands, and we know that they love each other. This is one of the greatest ways that those around you will know you love and care for your wife. Often I am guilty of walking a few strides ahead of my wife (I have long legs!) Think about how that looks compared to a couple who are walking side-by-side hand-in-hand. Not only will others know you love her, she will know you love her.
#4 - Surprises
I am very bad at this. Whenever I decide to surprise my wife, I will always end up telling her before the surprise. This is about spontaneity, having fun, and letting her know you are thinking about her. Life often gets bogged down into a routine, but when your wife gets a surprise weekend getaway, or you surprise her with taking the day off work to spend time with her, she will melt! Other ideas include leaving her notes where she will find them throughout the day, bringing home flowers on a day that is not a special occasion, or just calling her in the middle of the day to tell her you appreciate her. All women are different, but all woman also enjoy surprises.
#5 - Date Night
More important then the date itself is that you spend quality time with her. Watching TV together after the kids are in bed probably does not count (although we've had many at-home movie nights for dates). This gives you time to talk to each other about your schedules, you could get a hobby together or just go out to dinner. Also, this doesn't even have to cost money, you could make sandwiches and go to the beach, you could go for a long walk together, or many other things...be creative! If you were like me, when you were courting our wife-to-be, you took her on all kinds of extravagant dates to impress her...continue to court your wife and it will make you a better husband.
I am sure your list would have differences, so please let me know where I am wrong! It is my goal to start discussions with my posts and get your feedback. Let me know what you think are some things you can do to be a better husband.
#1 - Say "I Love You"
This is one that I, personally have never had a problem with (I think my wife probably thinks I say it too much!). I understand, however, that many men do not verbally express their love to their wife. This is number one on my list, but it is also the easiest one to do! It's three simple words that will mean the world to your wife, make sure she knows you love her, tell her "I love you" everyday.
#2 - Service
One of the biggest culture shocks to me after I got married was that it was no longer about "Me," it was all about "Us." Often, however, it should be all about "Her." I believe that the best kind of service is in the small things we do. For example, I went to Applebees recently to pick up some food to bring home for dinner. As I was waiting for my food to be ready an elderly couple walked into the restaurant--after requesting a booth, they were seated at the booth closest to the front door. As they walked to their seats, the Gentlemen kindly told his wife that he would sit on the side nearest to the the front door so she wouldn't get cold. He was putting his wife comfort above his own.
It is doing the dishes, getting her a glass of water, and overall putting her needs before yours. Unlike #1, this one requires more effort. There have been times in my marriage where this was easy, but also times where I started getting selfish and worrying about my needs ahead of my wife's. When we serve our wives we are better husbands and our wives are happy.
#3 - Holding Hands
Physical contact can say a lot that words cannot. We have all seen the couple who have been married for 40+ years holding each others hands, and we know that they love each other. This is one of the greatest ways that those around you will know you love and care for your wife. Often I am guilty of walking a few strides ahead of my wife (I have long legs!) Think about how that looks compared to a couple who are walking side-by-side hand-in-hand. Not only will others know you love her, she will know you love her.
#4 - Surprises
I am very bad at this. Whenever I decide to surprise my wife, I will always end up telling her before the surprise. This is about spontaneity, having fun, and letting her know you are thinking about her. Life often gets bogged down into a routine, but when your wife gets a surprise weekend getaway, or you surprise her with taking the day off work to spend time with her, she will melt! Other ideas include leaving her notes where she will find them throughout the day, bringing home flowers on a day that is not a special occasion, or just calling her in the middle of the day to tell her you appreciate her. All women are different, but all woman also enjoy surprises.
#5 - Date Night
More important then the date itself is that you spend quality time with her. Watching TV together after the kids are in bed probably does not count (although we've had many at-home movie nights for dates). This gives you time to talk to each other about your schedules, you could get a hobby together or just go out to dinner. Also, this doesn't even have to cost money, you could make sandwiches and go to the beach, you could go for a long walk together, or many other things...be creative! If you were like me, when you were courting our wife-to-be, you took her on all kinds of extravagant dates to impress her...continue to court your wife and it will make you a better husband.
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