#1 - Saying "I love you"
#2 - Service
The idea of serving your wife should seem obvious and simple. In fact, it is one of the most important ways to show your wife that you love her. I remember receiving some advice when I got married that both my wife, and I were to serve each other. At first, I couldn't understand what this meant - if we were both serving each other, who would be the one being served? I soon realized the answer to this question. We both are being served too! It is quite a beautiful thing!.
How do you serve your wife?
There are many things we should be doing to be a better husband; some of them are hard and some not so much. I put this one in the "not so much" category. The answer to the question above is simple: Do More! This could mean different things to different people, but to me it means the following:
- Help out with the housework. Frequently do chores that she typically does (e.g. what if your wife came home from the store and saw you had some the laundry? This would be a great way to serve!).
- Be an involved father. Did you know that I've actually heard of fathers who have never changed a poopy diaper?!? Remember that taking care of the kids is just as much your responsibility, as it is your wife's. Be involved in the feeding, changing, bathing, and any other "-ing's" you can think of.
- Perform random acts of service. Remember that, often, it is the little things that count. Only you know the little things that would mean the most to your wife. Heck, even being a gentlemen by holding the door open or helping her with her jacket are little things that go a long way!
"I went to Applebees recently to pick up some food to bring home for dinner. As I was waiting for my food to be ready an elderly couple walked into the restaurant--after requesting a booth, they were seated at the booth closest to the front door. As they walked to their seats, the Gentlemen kindly told his wife that he would sit on the side nearest to the the front door so she wouldn't get cold."I love this story, what a great husband! Before we got married, life was all about looking out for our own needs, it was all about "I." When we got married, it suddenly became all about "we." Never forget that! Now stop reading this and go serve your wife!!
How do you serve your wife? Any ideas you could share?
